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Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We fall asleep and wake up in a social arena where there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge before us, walls limit us, and a mob of spectator's mock, laugh or cheers us. Every day brings new battles if we want them or not, and if we're up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another - no choice in the matter. What we can choose, however, is the type of gladiator to be, the victor or the victim. Being a victim in this social arena translates into having bad relationships. Most are victims - victims of their own perceptions. That's because people don't develop and listen to their own unique, authentic self. Rather they let their mental spectators - those little tyrants rattling around in my head - to tell people of other how to fight their battles, what they can and cannot do. These tyrants applaud and they hiss, they encourage and discourage them. These mental spectators are the memories of the judgments of real people. For example, it is the memory of your aunt said, "I hope you marry someone rich, because you're not going far on brains."It's the echo of your father growling, "Without a back up in the problem - no spine." And their influence over your relationship can't be overstated. What is required is these steps to command, eight steps you can use most any situation you want changed. You can positively affect your relationships, your employment options, some aspects of your life. Let's look at the steps. 1. Define what ails you. Ask what's my problem? I am a jealous weasel, troubled that others have what I want? Am I ticked off most of the time? Am I sad and whiney? Have an anxiety ridden? Being moody? Or do I have all of the above? Without this step again, you are doomed. It will take personal courage, but you won't get results without identifying what is wrong with you. 2. Discover the Effects. Ask, where are my problems affecting my life? I am a bad parent, a friendless dork, a backstabber, a flirt, a drunk, a junkie? I am none of the above, but someone who is less than I could be? This step requires absolute self-honesty, but the truth will help set you free. 3. Search the source. Ask, where are my problems are? Who are my real and my mental spectators? What makes my mental spectators look, say and do? Exactly who or what keeps me from taking command of my life? This may be one of the most amazing experiences in your life. You will look into the abyss and see who looks back.
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